Is there a distinction between wishing and hoping?
Wishing is feeling or expressing a strong desire for something that is not easily attainable. It’s like wishing to win the lottery but you don’t buy a ticket.
Hoping is to look forward with desire and reasonable confidence that something can happen. You can hope that you win the lottery because you have purchased a ticket.
My conclusion is that the differing factors between wishing and hoping are the process of looking forward and taking action which can entirely change the course of your circumstances!
I had never considered the distinction between wishing and hoping until I attended the Helping Small Towns Succeed Conference. I attended a breakout session to explain and foster the trait of hope for community leadership. From the presenter’s research it appears that followers of community leaders want two things 1) stability in the moment; and 2) hope for the future. But unfortunately, the vast majority of community leaders do not spend enough time creating hope.
Think about it: growth is all about looking forward. A sapling becomes a mighty oak by growing slowly over time. An infant grows into a child, who eventually becomes an adult. Hope is the same way. It looks forward. When we have hope, we can create a vision and takes steps toward a better future for ourselves and our communities, not just wishing for things that could be.
Planting the seed of hope requires a change in mindset; leaders who believe community growth is possible and commit to pursuing it. The change in focus from wishing to hoping is only the first step. This movement begins a cycle of growth, increased hope, more growth, leading to contagious hope. Because when hope rises in our communities―everything changes.
Assessing Your Own Current Level of HOPE
Directions: Read each item carefully. Give yourself a score of 1-5 points based on the following: Strongly Disagree (1 point); Disagree (2 points); Neutral (3 points); Agree (4 points); Strongly Agree (5 points)
- My future will be better than the present. ___ points
- I have the power to make my future better. ___ points
- I am excited about at least one thing in my future. ___ points
- I see many paths to my goals. ___ points
- The paths to my important goals are free of obstacles. ___ points
Score Questions 1-5 is your HOPE score. TOTAL ____
- My present life circumstances are the only determinants of my future. ___ points
- My past accomplishments are the only determinants of my future. ___ points
Score Questions 6-7 is your READINESS to HOPE score. TOTAL ___
- I make others feel excited about the future. ___ points
- I spread hope through modeling or support of others. ___ points
- I spread hope through the way I live my life. ___ points
Score Question 8-10 is your HOPE CONTAGION score. TOTAL ___
Analyze your current level of HOPE
Questions 1-5 is your HOPE score (ranging from 5 -25).
- 5-15, it will take hard work and much practice to raise your score.
- 16-20, hope is an asset to you every day, but there are many strategies that can help you increase your hopefulness.
- 21+, you are a high-hope person whose thinking about the future is an asset.
Questions 6-7 is your READINESS to HOPE score (ranging from 2-10). The higher your score, the more you believe that your future is dominated by your past and present circumstances, and the less room you have for hope. Learn to expand your sense of personal freedom without denying the realistic constraints we all face.
Question 8-10 is your HOPE CONTAGION score (ranging from 3-15). If you scored above 12, you are a model for others and consciously boost the hope of those around you. A low score suggests that you would benefit from seeking out the support and companionship of high-hope people in your daily life. #Iamrural
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What’s your advice to those who have hope in their community but the present leaders of that community are not motivated to solve the empty storefront problems downtown? Where do we go from here?
Paula Jensen says
Do you have passion around filling empty storefronts or any other project in your community? In my community coaching work we empower people who have energy around any issue to find others with similar passions and try something (little bets). We cannot appoint someone else to complete a project or address an issue unless we are willing to roll up our sleeves and help make change happen.
Paula Jensen says
One last thought…be the change, be the hope! I believe in you.